The problem with weed is that it’s hard to tell if it’s helping you or hurting you.
Compared to meth or crack, cannabis is relatively harmless. Nobody has ever overdosed, and there are even medical uses for it. Plus it’s glamorized in music and Hollywood. And I’m sure there have been many times when you felt better after getting high.
Sure, you recognize that it causes you some problems. But it’s hard to get yourself to quit smoking weed when you feel so conflicted about it.
The Problem With Feeling Conflicted About Marijuana
It’s understandable if you feel conflicted about your weed use. But if you want to quit and not feel miserable, you need to stop being conflicted.
If you give up marijuana even though you wish you could still have it, you’ll feel awful. It’s sort of like going through a break up. You’ll miss weed every time you eat, socialize, get ready for bed, and during pretty much everything else. Between your boredom and sadness you’ll miss it too much and start smoking again.
Unfortunately this is what happens to a lot people when they try to quit. And that’s why most advice out there warns you about the “inevitable” difficulties you’ll face during THC withdrawal. Most people feel like they’re depriving themselves of their favorite guilty pleasure, and their experience is indeed unpleasant.
What To Do If You Feel Conflicted
One way to stop feeling conflicted would be to try and convince yourself you don’t like weed. I suppose it can be done, but it didn’t work for me. Even when I thought of all the ways it was ruining my life, I couldn’t convince myself that I didn’t actually like smoking weed.
Here’s what I suggest you do instead: make yourself so busy that you crowd marijuana out of your life.
I got the idea from the book How To Stop Worrying And Start Living by Dale Carnegie. In one of the chapters he talks about fighting worry by being too busy to even have time to worry. I think the same idea can apply to quitting weed.
Quit Smoking Weed By Being Too Busy
It’s simple. Come up with a big, juicy goal and go after it!
What we want here is a goal (or set of goals) that is so exciting and compelling that you’ll willingly give up your current lifestyle in its pursuit. It should also be ambitious – more ambitious than any goal you’ve ever set for yourself.
Don’t pick something easy and uninspiring like “lose 10 pounds.” Sure, that’s a nice goal, but it won’t cause you to reshape your life. Instead try something like “win a bodybuilding competition.” Or, “start a six-figure business” Or, “raise a million dollars to donate to my favorite cause.”
You get the idea. You need to think big here.
Then, you decide to pursue this goal with everything you’ve got. And then you get to work!
When you’re cruising along and making progress and getting excited, you won’t even want to get high. It’s not that you’re suddenly against weed, you just know it will get in the way. It will make it harder to focus on what you really enjoy: pursuing your goal.
That’s how you quit weed the Dale Carnegie way. Simple as can be. Do it this way and you’ll not only quit, you’ll be well on your way to big success. In fact, you have a secret weapon that most people don’t have.
Obsession: Your Secret Weapon In Life
Have you ever seen the statistic that only a small percentage of people get addicted to marijuana? I believe it’s because a lot of us who become addicted are wired differently. We do things obsessively, as evidenced by our daily smoking habits.
People say potheads are lazy, but they haven’t seen the utter determination of a weed smoker who is out of bud. I’ve driven hours across states and met shady dealers at odd hours just to get it. I have moved heaven and earth to scrounge up $20 for a bag when I had zero dollars in my bank account. (Actually, that happened like every week.) And I knew lots of weed smokers who were just as determined as me.
If you’re addicted to weed, it’s worth realizing that you have managed to prioritize something day after day, no matter the circumstances or cost. You can just as easily apply this level of obsession to a new venture. Imagine what you could have accomplished if you put all the time and money spent on weed toward building something. Well, now is your chance!
Most people do things in moderation. But people like you and I aren’t good at moderation. When we do something we go all in. That’s your secret weapon. You just need to harness your pursuit of getting high and redirect it toward your new goal.
What About Those Pesky Withdrawal Symptoms?
Sounds good, you say, but I feel like $#!@ when I stop smoking weed. What should you do about the side effects of quitting weed cold turkey?
No matter what, you are going to feel a little “off” for a few days when you quit. There is some inevitable discomfort during THC withdrawal. You should take care of yourself during the withdrawal phase by exercising and eating right, and you’ll start to feel much better within days.
If you’re truly focused on your new goal, you’ll be excited about all the new energy and focus you now have. You’ll experience a feeling of mental and physical readiness that you haven’t felt in a long time. This will help you see progress toward your new goal even quicker.
You’ll still be tempted to smoke at times, but you can just remind yourself that you will be incapacitated for hours. Think about what you could accomplish instead of sitting on the couch in a daze.
You might even slip up and smoke at some point. No worries! Just notice how it depletes your precious energy and drive, and use it as a reminder for next time that it’s not worth it.
A Word About Sleep
Insomnia after quitting weed is one of the most common reasons people avoid trying. However, quitting weed by being too busy to smoke is one of the best ways to deal with this insomnia.
We all know it never works to lay in bed and think about falling asleep. But that’s what most people do when quitting marijuana. So the solution is to do the opposite.
Instead of trying to fall asleep, you should try to stay up and work on your goal. If you have extra energy around bedtime, great. Use it. Paradoxically, this will probably cause you to fall asleep at a reasonable time.
Even if you don’t get the prescribed 8 hours, or even 6, don’t sweat it. Some of the most successful people in the world sleep only 4 hours or so. Cut back on caffeine if you have to, but otherwise keep pursuing your goal and let sleep occur as it will. Most likely things will normalize in a few weeks.
Nobody plans to become addicted to marijuana, but here we are. Most people see it as a burden, but if you look closer you will see the hidden opportunity in all of this. Instead of being miserable, you have a chance to flip the script and do something incredible. Quitting weed will be so effortless it will just be an afterthought.